Steph

 
 
 

The Story


Steph is a content strategist who uses her voice to help others write and share their authentic story.

As only a teenager, her abuser body and slut shamed her for years, using her eating disorder as a weapon to break down her sense of self worth.

This is her story.

 
 

The Portraits

Throughout her relationship with her abuser, she was silenced in every sense of the word.

In university, the verbal abuse escalated, the private and public humiliation became far worse, and the physical assault on her body began - and lasted until the moment he hit her in the face and she decided that she was no longer willing to live in shame and fear.

Now, over a decade later, she has turned the trauma, blame, and shame he created inside her into a body she nourishes and celebrates and a heart that is full of forgiveness.

She has spent years speaking out and fighting the “very British” culture of suppressing emotions, and works to break down the shame and silence surrounding domestic abuse with the people in her life.

She is an inspiration, and without any shadow of a doubt, has reclaimed the power of her voice.

This is the Steph you see here.

We designed two portraits for each survivor in our campaign, a deeply personal pairing to illustrate her own unique journey from control and silence to freedom and voice.

 

Steph’s first portrait represents her journey from being trapped and bound in a world of physical and emotional shame to becoming the woman who instead has bloomed in the experience of learning to love her body and her whole, beautiful self.

 
 

The second portrait represents her liberation from silence and transformation into the woman who found a way to a bold, brave, open-hearted forgiveness of her abuser and herself so she could let go of shame and blame and grow into the woman she is today. A woman who turned her pain into a heart that blooms with love and beauty. A woman who will never be silenced again.

You can find her on Instagram at @steph.connolly

Inspired by Steph’s Story?

We need your support to achieve our mission of helping more women like her to discover the power of their voice.

Your generous contribution will ensure we can keep fighting for survivors and women everywhere, and help give them the tools to tell their story in order to inspire lasting change in their community and around the world.

It’s time to shed the stigma, shame, and blame and change the story about domestic abuse.

It’s time to #HearHerRoar.

We are a registered UK Charity. Donate to our #HearHerRoar crowdfunder campaign or donate directly through our donorbox, whichever moves you!

 

Thank you to all the volunteers and donors who helped make Steph’s story come to life:

Stephanie Goldfinger: Photography and Creative Direction

Roxy van der Post: Videography and Editing

My Lady Garden: Floral Design

Lejla Dauti: Makeup

Daria Szotek: Behind the Scenes Photography

Natalia Kaluza: Production Assistance and Marketing

Loes van Gestel: Production Assistance

Shoreditch Nails: Manicure

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